Mortgaging the Pain, the Myth of No Pain, No Gain and Living Your Best Life Now [PODCAST 70]

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Mortgaging the Pain, the Myth of No Pain, No Gain and Living Your Best Life Now [PODCAST 70]


What if I told you that you don’t have to endure lots of pain and hardship in order to get to the place you want to be? How would that change your attitude about today, tomorrow, and the weeks ahead?


On today’s show, I’m chatting with my friend Dr Cristy Lopez about the myth we’ve all been told, that you can’t get the things you really want in life unless you go through pain to get there. To be blunt: I don’t buy it.

Why do I have to wait to experience joy and happiness in life simply because I haven’t reached the pinnacle of success that I’m shooting for? And why does the climb to that pinnacle have to be done in pain? It doesn’t! …And on this episode Dr. Lopez and I are going to walk you through why that train of thought is a lie.  We’ll introduce you to a 3 step framework (3 questions) that can help you identify the key components you need in order to live your best life now.

Who are you? What do you want? What do you stand for?


Those three questions form the foundation of the 3 part framework Dr. Lopez and I unpack on this episode. They are the questions Dr. Lopez confronted me with years ago that opened the door to me experiencing more joy and happiness regularly.


Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn in this show:

  • Welcome you and the introduction to today’s show; [0:31]
  • Why this topic is so important; [1:23]
  • Who is Dr. Cristy Lopez? [2:30]
  • What research shows about delayed gratification; [2:53]
  • The myth that pain has to precede gain; [5:00]
  • The problem with “mortgaging the pain?” [7:46]
  • What Dr. Lopez has discovered about “And VS Or”; [9:58]
  • The 3 step framework; [14:10]
  • Who am I? What do I want? What do I stand for? [17:40]
  • Discovering who you are; [25:50]
  • How to get in touch with Dr. Cristy Lopez; [32:30]


Get in touch with Dr. Cristy Lopez



Phone: 602-323-7824






Resources mentioned on this episode:


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BOOK: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and How To Listen So Kids Will Talk

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